Tanya Talks - Authenticity, Self-fullness & Inspiration
I woke up this morning with something to say. It was almost bursting out of me as I was in the shower and so and soon as I finished I ran to create a voice recording on my phone in fear that I would forget the thoughts forming in my head! Do you ever notice that inspiration always strikes at a time and place of it’s choosing not when it’s convenient for us?
My journey into the world of social media took a huge step a couple of years ago when I decided to start this blog. Originally, I started it with the intention of writing about things I was passionate about and to also create a memory keeping platform for some of my favorite things. Of course secretly I also hoped I would attract a million followers with my random ramblings. When that didn’t happen right away I started to change the content I was creating in an attempt to write ‘what people wanted to hear’.
The tragic error of that move led to me posting about things that were what I thought others wanted to see and hear about. Not necessarily what I was truly passionate about. The truth is, I think a lot of us fall into this trap. We end up showing only the highlights or pretty parts of ourselves and our lives instead of being authentic or talking/posting about what really drives us.
I’m currently listening to the audio book 'Big Magic' by Elizabeth Gilbert
First off, If you haven’t gotten your hands on this book you need to do it now! Secondly, if you haven’t given audio books a try I highly recommend it! I’m pretty late to the Audible party but since making the leap about 4 months ago I'm definitely hooked. Not only do I love it, but I’m learning a ton and reading/listening to way more books! To top it off there’s nothing better, in my opinion, than listening to the author herself reading the book she wrote. You get to listen to the words as they were truly meant to be heard.
Anyways… back to Big Magic
In this book Elizabeth Gilbert talks about inspiration and living a ‘creative’ life but what struck me yesterday as I was listening was something she said when talking about the success surrounding Eat, Pray, Love. She said, as much as she's happy that the book has helped countless people and was at the top of the best sellers list for over 3 years that wasn’t the reason she wrote the book. She wrote the book because she had to, for herself. This was such a powerful comment to me because I think when you create from a place of authenticity you are able to connect with others in a way that creating for approval or profit simply doesn't allow for.
And so with this ‘ah ha’ moment sitting in the front of my mind this morning when I woke up, I realized how far I seem to have wandered off my original path when I started the Everyday Journalista. I don’t know about you but I’m a 'pleaser'. Honestly, it’s not a particularly healthy characteristic. It leads to, in my case anyway, terrible self care habits, endless guilt, and boundary issues. I recently listened to Iyanla Vanzant on Oprah’s Soul Sunday (which is amazing by the way) and she said, “how you treat yourself is how you treat God”. She goes on to explain that you are the representative of God in your own life and that with that in mind we should and need to put ourselves and God first in our lives. She called it being ‘Self-full”. This blew my mind on so many levels I can’t even tell you!
For me authenticity is at the core of all of this. Being true to yourself, doing what gets you fired up and fueling yourself are truly the best ways to be successful and find connection in every area of your life.
Now this all makes perfect sense and seems so simple and obvious but it’s so easy to lose sight of in the online world of comparison, likes and followers.
I hope you have found some empowerment or encouragement from this post, but if you already knew all this or it somehow doesn’t apply to you that’s okay too. Today I wrote for me, to remind myself why I do this, to encourage myself to be authentic, to empower myself to persevere and finally to love myself and say it’s okay to be self-full.