Plan with Me: March Month at a Glance

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For this months plan with me I have decided to share my month at-a-glance layout.

I generally don’t put a lot of written material on these layouts other than birthdays and travel plans so it’s a great opportunity to focus on just being creative!

I had a lot of fun creating this layout. So grab some tea and come plan with me :).

 

Plan with Me: February

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I’m excited to share this months Plan with Me video with you! I am continuing to work on the best ways for me to film and present these videos to you. I feel like each time I film I get a little closer to what I would like to see. It’s a process, but one I am really enjoying and learning from.

Today’s video has a Valentine’s feel to it with lots of pink. I had a lot of fun creating this layout so I hope you enjoy :)

 

Making Magic Happen

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We have just returned from a trip of a lifetime to Disney World in Orlando. A few short years ago this trip would have been impossible for us. With a child who has multiple anxiety disorders as well as OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder) I thought that a trip of this distance (we live in British Columbia, Canada) and magnitude would simply be too much.

I can’t tell you how proud I am of how far my son has come in these past two years. He has put in an immeasurable amount of work in his constant battle against anxiety and OCD. Disney Parks have also done an amazing job of providing support and tools for those with a variety of needs and disabilities. In this post I hope to share with you what I did to prepare for our trip and how Disney Parks support and systems helped make our time at Disney World truly magical.

 

A trip to Disney World, in my opinion, is not something to be done spontaneously. The more you plan the more you can get out of your visit. For us this trip was a year in the making.

PLANNING AHEAD:

A few months prior to our visit I really started to research our visit and what it was going to look like. In our case we were going to be in Orlando for a full 7 days. Considering the distance we were traveling and some of the other things we wanted to see and do while in Orlando (another post coming on that soon), as well as our experience at Disneyland last year, I thought that we would be able to do and see everything we wanted over a four-day period. To save a little money we decided not to purchase the park hopper, which allows you to visit multiple parks each day. We also took advantage of the Canadian Residence Special that Disney is currently offering.

We planned to spend one day at each of the 4 parks: Animal Kingdom, Hollywood Studios, Magic Kingdom, and Epcot. We visited one park each day and made the most of the full day at each location. For us it worked out amazingly and I would highly recommend this if you’re looking at ways to save. In my opinion it had no negative impact on our experience.

Next I started searching Disney World crowd calendars for the 4 days we would be in the area. This is a really helpful tool for figuring out what days may be the best for you to visit. I used Kenny The Pirate and found it to be really helpful.

ONCE YOU ARRIVE:

The first thing I did when we got into Orlando was to download the My Disney Experience app. Now keep in mind that you are able to book a FastPass+ up to 30 days ahead of your visit, but we did visit during a relatively quiet time of the year (January), and we had decided not book any character dining or other specific experiences as we had done that in Disneyland previously. If those are things that are a priority for you I would highly recommend booking those as far in advance as possible. For more information on FastPass+ click here.

DISABILITY ACCESS SERVICE (DAS):

I knew that this was something I wanted to look into getting for my son. Disney parks go above and beyond when it comes to helping those with special needs. I’m not just talking about those with physical disabilities (although they offer services for those people as well). I’m talking about a huge range of needs, including those with cognitive disabilities and mental illness. Without the support and services available with the DAS we would not have been able to experience Disney World. Disney really does an amazing job at making their parks magical and accessible for all children.

Wdwprepschool.com defines those who maybe eligible for the DAS as “anyone who has a disability or condition that necessitates waiting outside a traditional line environment”.

It is a bit of a process to get the pass set up but once that’s done you’re good to go at any of the 4 Disney parks. We knew this going in so we made sure we were at the park (we did Animal Kingdom on our first day) right when it opened in order to get everything set up.

 

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As I mentioned above we had pre-purchased our tickets so once we got through security we headed straight for Guest Relations. The amazing cast member who helped us was able to set up our park cards as well as the disability pass for my son (A very grateful shout-out to Amy-Lou at Guest Relations Animal Kingdom). She let me know about break areas in the case of over stimulation and provided me with a document called Attraction Details for Guests with Cognitive Disabilities.

 

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This invaluable tool goes through every attraction at each of the four parks identifying details that could be possible triggers (loud noises, smells, and elements of surprise, to name a few). It also includes information on ride duration and restraint type. I can’t express how helpful this was. I was able to use this tool, not only to help me select which rides were appropriate for my son, but also to help prepare him for those rides we selected. Not knowing what’s coming can be debilitating for him so letting him know that Star Tours – The Adventure continues has periods of darkness, 3D effects, and lasts 7 minutes was really effective in helping him prepare for what was to come.

DURING THE TRIP:

Every evening once we returned to our hotel and I got the kids to bed I spent some time planning our next day. I would review a park map for the park we were going to visit (I printed these prior to our trip), I looked through the Attraction Details Handbook and made a list of what we wanted to accomplish for the day. I would then book our FastPass+ and lay out a plan for what we would do around our FastPass+ times. I tried to plan our day to cover the rides around our FastPass+ times so we weren’t walking across the entire park for a FastPass+ ride time.

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With the DAS we were also able to get Return Times for rides. In order to obtain a Return Time for a ride at Disney World you must go to the FastPass+ entrance of the ride you wish to go on and arrange for a return time. My son’s card would be scanned in order to verify his designation and then we were given a card or verbal time to return within half an hour of the current time. Upon returning we would enter in through the FastPass+ line.

 

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For the most part, this system worked really well for us. A few times we returned to find that the FastPass+ line was really long. In these cases we chose to return later. This and the fact that you have to return at all can be an issue for some children.

In Disneyland they have designated areas you can go to get return times that are separate from the ride. This makes things a lot easier for those children who have a tough time leaving a ride without riding it and having to return later. For us, either my husband or myself would go and get the Return Time while the other kept the kids busy with some of the million other things there are to see and do at Disney World.

 

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So that’s what I did to plan before and during our trip to Disney World. If you have a child who struggles with a disability, be it physical or mental, I hope you will find this helpful in some way.

I’m planning a series of photo focused mini posts, one on each park that we visited highlighting our experience. So please keep an eye for that.

 

ONE MORE THING

There’s been a lot of talk in the media lately about mental illness. It’s a conversation that is long over due on a topic that affects a staggering amount of people on some level or another. As excited as I am about initiatives like #bellletstalk, change is slow and despite our best efforts there still exists a huge amount of stigma and misunderstanding when it comes to mental illness.

For those who struggle with OCD they may often be faced with the mainstream use of the term OCD. If you know someone who truly struggles with OCD you know that every thought and action can be a battle. What can be harder is that those who struggle with disorders like anxiety and OCD look just like you and me. Their war goes on inside, often in secret.

My point in all of this is that when you visit a Disney Park they get it! Whether you are limited physically or mentally they are there to support you and your children. Disney has allowed my family to have experiences and make lifelong memories, which without a doubt we would not have been able to make without the support and systems they have in place.

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Plan with Me: January

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2017 is here and for me it’s started as 2016 ended… busy busy busy. To keep everything organized and to help me keep my sanity I rely heavily on my planner.

For me though my planner is more than an agenda filled with appointments and things to do, it’s also a memoir of my life and a time capsule for keepsakes and special times.

I look forward to the times where I can sit down each week and spend time in my planner/journal. For me it’s a time to get creative, have fun, plan, reflect and be mindfully grateful for all I have in my life.

Below is my latest Plan with me video. So grab a cup of tea, your own planner or journal and let’s have some ‘you’ time.

 

 

12 Days of Mindful Gratitude

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December is here! This is my favorite time of the year and I am super excited for Christmas!

This time of the year can go by in a blur for many of us as we get caught up in holiday preparations and plans. It can be as stressful as it is exciting, with so much going on it can be easy to lose focus on what’s really important.

Regardless of how you celebrate the holidays it’s a wonderful time to be with those we love and reflect on the past year. A really great way to do that is to keep a gratitude journal. Keeping a gratitude journal is a wonderful way to become mindful of all the things we have to be thankful for in our lives.

If you haven’t had the opportunity to do a gratitude exercise before I would highly recommend it. It doesn’t have to be complicated and it doesn’t have to be forever.

 

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Being a bit of a journal and planning fanatic myself, I take great pleasure in the practice of sitting down and writing about any number of things, including one thing I am grateful for each day. I create a pretty layout at the beginning of each month where I will try to take a moment each evening to jot down something (usually just one thing) that I am grateful for on that given day.

 

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If I miss a day I don’t beat myself up about it, I just carry on the next day. At the end of the month I have a list of things big and small that I can revisit if I’m looking for a little boost. But more importantly each of those days of the month I have taken a moment to shift my focus to the present and reflect on the positive in my life.

What will happen is that you start to become more present and mindfully grateful in the moments as they are happening. It’s such a powerful thing to be truly present and in the moment when something simple, good, happy, positive, or meaningful is happening.

 

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Now is a wonderful time to challenge yourself to 12 days of mindful gratitude. Here are some suggestions to get you started:

 

  • Start small: Maybe 12 days of Christmas Gratitude.
  • Start simple: It’s doesn’t have to be 10 things each day or an elaborate journal entry. Start with 1-3 things you are grateful for each day and see how your mindset shifts.
  • Of course you can get yourself a little journal and create a heartfelt entry for each day or
  • You can create one page and number it from 1-30. Then take a few minutes each day and jot down one or two things (big or small) that you are grateful for each day.
  • Another option if writing it down isn’t for you is to simply set an alarm on your phone titled ‘what are you grateful for?’ When it goes off each day just take a moment to become mindful of that question.

Remember, it’s not always going to be kittens, rainbows and unicorns. Some days it may be hard to find something to be grateful for. It’s during those times that being grateful for even the smallest thing can spark real mindset change.

 

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Find the magic in everyday! Becoming mindful of positive things in our lives helps shift our focus onto those positive things. This in turn brings more positivity to our lives.

If you decide to give this a try I would love to hear from you :)

 

 

 

 

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I’ve been trying to figure out the best way to share my planning and journaling obsession on my blog. I have started several posts but a photo step by step just isn’t that exciting. So I thought I would try share it through a video.

Speaking of videos… I LOVE YouTube. I’m totally addicted to it. From beauty to planning, crafts and drawing. Whenever I need inspiration or want to learn about how to do something I head to YouTube.

I did it! I filmed my first YouTube video! I had so much fun making this and actually can’t wait to try it again.

It’s under 5 minutes in length so I’d love for you to check it out :). I hope it brings a little magic to your everyday :)

 

 

 

What’s Holding You Back?

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I have all these grandiose plans and ideas. So many things I want to do and be. I make lists and outlines and set goals. I get things organized, I get things started, and then… I slip or miss a deadline or there’s a delay or barrier to my progress… I start to loose momentum and before I know it I’m dead in the water!

Has this ever happened to you?

I become paralyzed by procrastination. The worst part for me is that I’m aware of it! I see that if I just start something, anything, I will continue to make progress and yet… I do nothing.

This blog is a perfect case in point. I have not posted in months and it all started with missing one deadline. When I tried to get back on track again I became overwhelmed with feelings of failure for not sticking to my posting schedule goal. Then I got stuck in the endless pit of excuses and reasons to not continue and I gave up! I quit.

My perfectionist personality would rather not do anything than do something less than perfect. I find at times that this ends up holding me back from not only trying new things but also from moving forward with goals or projects. 

Back to the blog…

Finally I came up with a topic for my next post. I took all my photos and had even started writing. Then as I was prepping to put it all together I was flooded with thoughts of doubt, uncertainty and fear of failure. I never ended up posting it.

And it got me to thinking… the only thing preventing my progress, my success, is ME!!

I recently heard a clip of Kate Winslett discussing that when she was young she was basically told that she would never get anywhere with acting. She didn’t let that or anything else distract or discourage her away from the path she wanted. It may have been true that she wasn’t that great at the time but she continued on and learned and developed and grew… she persevered!

What’s holding me back? What’s holding any of us back from achieving our goals? I believe it’s perseverance! Keep doing the work, keep moving forward in some capacity. It might not be great, it might not be what you would like your end product to be but it’s something, it’s a step closer to what you want, it’s progress!

So today I’m posting! It’s not perfect, it’s not ground breaking, but it’s something, it’s real, it’s progress, and with that I’m one step closer to my dream than I was yesterday.

 

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Anxiety- The Ripple Effect

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I write a lot about anxiety on this blog, specifically the generalized and separation anxiety that my son suffers from. What I have not really touched on is how this anxiety has affected the other members of our family and our family as a whole.

As heart breaking as it is to watch my son struggle with the constant bullying from his anxiety he is certainly not the only one in our home affected by it. The ripple effect of his worries impacts each person in our family differently as well as our family as a unit.

One thing I have learned over the course of dealing with anxiety and its associates (depression & OCD) is that they are extremely tricky and do whatever they can to sneak in and take over not only the sufferer’s life but also the lives of those around them.

As the parent of a child with anxiety I will often catch myself accommodating anxiety. It’s so easy to do and it often starts out as just a little thing here or there. Next thing you know you find yourself doing some ridiculous accommodation in an attempt to keep anxiety at bay, when the truth is, that is the exact thing that makes it stronger.

There were periods of time in the beginning when our family could not travel because of the impact it would have on my son. Anxiety had our family living in fear and it was running the show. I thought that we were trapped and that we would not be able to overcome the hold that anxiety had on our lives. I felt powerless and was afraid to fight back, that I would make things worse for my son.

In fact the opposite is true. For both my son and myself, awareness and education have been huge. Just the simple action of calling out anxiety or an anxious behaviour gives it less power. But the biggest thing for me as a mom was learning that pushing back at anxiety by allowing my son into a triggering situation, when done gradually and in cooperation with him, is actually the best way to fight back and beat anxiety. These two things have been huge in allowing my son to get back to being a kid and for our family to enjoy doing things together both at home and away.

It’s a daily effort and as with most things there are many ups and downs. Sometimes we are better at fighting against anxiety and sometimes anxiety starts to get the upper hand. My son truly is my hero. Each day he works so very hard to keep anxiety from creeping into his life so he can be who he is meant to be. I do what I can to try to support those efforts but anxiety in the everyday moments is often a battle he has to fight alone.

Perhaps the one person most impacted by my son’s anxiety is his younger sister. She has been witness to all the worries and questions and fear and appointments and therapies.

Day in and day out she is being exposed to fears and worries that she would never have come up with on her own. I was truly naive to think that she could be immune to such a strong environmental influence. When she started exhibiting signs and symptoms of the same anxieties my son has I right away assumed it was a learned behaviour, quickly dismissed her worries and pushed her to move on.

When things proceeded to get worse I started to think both my children were going to struggle with severe anxiety. Then of course comes the guilt and self blame.

But what I have since realized is that it actually doesn’t matter whether the behaviour is learned or whether there is a chemical imbalance causing the behaviour because the resulting anxiety is the same and so is how you should treat it.

I started with the same processes I went through with my son, although this time I was a little more well equipped. I started calling out her anxious behaviours because, again whether learned or not, the anxious feelings and symptoms she was experiencing were very real. We worked through anxiety help books like What to do when you worry too much’ by Dawn Huebner (a great book by the way!). And finally I just continued to encourage her to push back against the worries as well as gently pushing her away from where her worries wanted her to go. I would say that she turned the corner about three months ago. My daughter is slowly returning to her adventurous, outgoing, and risk-taking self.

I won’t deny that she still has some of her brothers anxieties whispering in her ear, and those have and will effect who she is as a person and how she moves about her world. But I think by facing it rather that trying to dismiss it my daughter and our family are learning to show anxiety who’s boss.

In closing I just want to add that as difficult as illnesses like anxiety are for those who struggle with them they can and do have an enormous impact on those closest to them and on families as a whole. Each person living with someone with a mental illness is dealing with it too on some level and those feelings are real and valid.

Thank you so much for taking the time to check out my blog. I really do appreciate it:)

Please do consider leaving a comment or question if you have one.

 

Until next time …

The Everyday Journalista

A Mickey Mouse-tastic Birthday

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When my daughter came to me asking for a Disney themed birthday party I was not at all surprised. We visited Disneyland for the first time a few months ago and she has literally fallen in love with anything and everything Disney. Who can blame her, after all, it is the most magical place on earth ;).

We narrowed it down to Mickey Mouse from Disney which was great because there is just so much available from party supply stores and even the dollar store with the Mickey Mouse theme.

The following are some photos of what we came up with. Hopefully this will give you a starting point or some inspiration if you are considering a Mickey Mouse party for your child.

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roomIMG_5465Here’s a view from the inside. I just fell in love with these red and white polka dot balloons and bunting!

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Another angle of the window.

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For the cake, I just baked two regular eight inch rounds and then cut out two circles from one of the rounds for the ears. Simple icing and then edged the cake with these super yummy white and milk chocolate Kit Kat bars. The kids could not wait when they saw it!

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Mickey Mouse, Mickey Mouse Birthday Party, Birthday Party Ideas, Mickey Mouse Cake, Mickey Mouse Table Decorations, Mickey Mouse Pinata, Mickey Mouse Goodie Bags, Menchies Bar Birthday, DIY Menchies PartyFor the goodie bags I found these neat popcorn type boxes from the dollar store. The kids had the candy from the pinata and we also filled them with a Mickey Mouse themed giant eraser, Mickey and friends pencil, tape and noise maker. The kids also took home one of these Mickey and Friends note books shown in the foreground.

Mickey Mouse, Mickey Mouse Birthday Party, Birthday Party Ideas, Mickey Mouse Cake, Mickey Mouse Table Decorations, Mickey Mouse Pinata, Mickey Mouse Goodie Bags, Menchies Bar Birthday, DIY Menchies PartyOn the second day of birthday celebrating we had some family over for a Menchies Bar Party. My daughter loves Menchies! She is lactose intolerant and this is one of the ice cream/ fro-yo places she can go because they always offer a diary free option. I bot the Fro-yo, Sherbet and a couple of the harder to find toppings at Menchies and found the rest in the bulk section of my local grocery store. This was a ton of fun and I would definitely recommend it. Menchies was really helpful as well!

I hope you enjoyed this post and perhaps picked up an idea or two if you are considering a Mickey Mouse themed Party for your child. If you have any questions or comments you can leave them here or you can also find me on Instagram @theeverydayjournalista.

Hope you are having a Mouse-tastic Day! :)

 

 

Anxiety: 5 Steps to Help Your Child Push Back

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As an adult it may be difficult for us to understand what a child could possibly have to be anxious about. They don’t have a job or a mortgage or any of the responsibilities that we as adults have to balance. While this may be true child anxiety is a very real thing and something that plagues as many as 1 in 4 children.

Being a parent of a child with anxiety I know first hand how debilitating it can be and the impact it can have on other children in the house and the family unit as a whole.

Nail biting, lip chewing, shirt chewing, paper tearing, pencil biting these are just a few of the more subtle outward signs you may see in a child with anxiety. But the more serious and often more concerning signs are often the ones you don’t see.

These are the signs of the ‘Internalizer’. All appears fine for the most part on the surface but underneath, inside they are being pushed around by the bully that is anxiety.

Anxiety comes is many forms and is a friend to many other bullies; separation anxiety, generalized anxiety, performance anxiety, depression, and OCD just to name a few.

These silent enemies threaten to replace fun with fear, adventure with dread and curiosity with doubt. I have seen it physically attack my son with hives, stomach-aches, bed-wetting, and endless tears. I have also seen it attack his spirit creating fear, uncertainty, doubt, and sadness.

So many children and their families think they must suffer with these common mental illnesses or that they aren’t serious enough to warrant treatment. I could not disagree more. If anxiety and its gang of trouble makers is affecting your everyday life and the life of your child then help is definitely available and warranted.

The trick is to learn tools and coping skills that will allow your child to push back against anxiety. But how hard to push and in what levels and situations is something that is different for each child. Even more difficult is that what works for a specific child can vary greatly as they develop and mature.

There are many strategies and coping tools that can help a child with anxiety. The difficulty is finding what works best for your child. What works for one will not necessarily work for another. My son and I are in a continuous state of learning when it comes to how best to support him. The steps I list below are what is working currently for my son. This has changed and grown over the years and I will expect it to continue to do so. I share these in the hope that perhaps one or two may work for your child as you navigate through the options for coping that will fit your child.

5 Steps to Pushing Back Against Anxiety:
  1. Call Out the Bully

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It’s easy to mistake some of the symptoms of anxiety in children with unfocused and/or bad behaviour. Identifying your child’s anxiety and what triggers it is a huge step towards controlling it, but calling out anxious behaviours and triggering situations is just as crucial. Call out the bully, don’t let anxiety secretly push your child around. This isn’t something we do out in public or in the classroom but at home we talk about the day and any triggering incident has taken place we call it what it is and my son can then take back control of that moment. When anxiety peaks at home I do my best to call it as I see it. Naming anxiety and other secretive disorders like OCD immediately gives them less power. It’s empowering to the child and really is very effective in putting things into perspective.

  1. The Long Exhale

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Anxiety not only creates a mental response in the mind but also a physical one. A sense of panic, the need to run or escape is often described. This can lead to a racing heart and quick shallow breathing.

By simply becoming aware of their breathing your child can work to bring their anxiety levels down into a range they can cope with. This is easier said than done, especially for children. When my son was 7 and the idea of breathing as a skill was introduced it was a disaster. Bringing awareness to his breathing only made him breath quicker and more panicked as he tried to complete the breathing exercises.

At 11 years old he is now able to use this skill more effectively and I know this is one that will be huge for him in the future as well. It takes practice, during a non-anxious period to get the feeling you want to try to recreate when an anxious episode is triggered. I just encourage my son to focus on a long exhale. I don’t really put a number of breaths or seconds in and out as that seems to trip him up. Just slow long breaths.

  1. Channel Anxious Energy

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Another way to keep anxious energy from building or from coming out in destructive ways (lip chewing, nail biting, paper tearing or eating) is to use fidget tools. Anxiety has to have an outlet and most children and adults will naturally find one. Unfortunately these may not always be healthy or appropriate. Using a fidget tool like the ones I have pictured here are a great way to give anxious energy somewhere to go without being distracting or destructive. These have been really helpful for my son.

  1. Rescue Remedy

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I love this stuff and have been using for years. The Bach Flower Remedies work in conjunction with herbs, homeopathy and medications and are safe for everyone. Rescue Remedy helps relax, focus and calm. We have recently moved from the drops to the pastilles so my son can have them at hand at school for those times when anxiety spikes. It has been a huge help! You can learn more about Rescue Remedy here: http://www.bachflower.com/rescue-remedy-information/

  1. Take a Minute

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This seems so simple but it’s one that is not always supported in the school system. Having the ability to just step out of an anxiety-provoking situation to ‘regroup’ can be huge towards avoiding a total meltdown or escalation of symptoms. Not only does this provide an opportunity to step away from the thing/situation that has triggered the anxiety it can also allow for some of the other tools to be put into action prior to rejoining the situation.

Thank you so much for taking time out of you busy day to read this post. My hope is that if your child or you struggle with anxiety you will be able to take away something helpful or encouraging from this post. I have also created a quick reference printable called 5 Steps Against Anxiety – Everyday Journalista 2016 you can print off.

If you have some tools that have worked for your child I would love to hear them as well.

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